for my children~dealing with uncertainty

One thing we can count on in life is there is constant change, and much uncertainty. That doesn't make uncertainty easier.  It can be very stressful.

We like to think we have control over our lives, but in truth we have control over little in our lives.  It is important to realize the distinction between what we can control and what we can't.  We can't control the weather, or what our neighbors do, or who likes us or wants to be our friend.  We can't control what grades our teachers decide to give us, how well our team does in a season, or when we finally find all the people to make the perfect band.  We can only do our best.  We can't control what others do, or say.

We can control what we do, and how we respond, and what we say.  We can choose to see all the negatives of a situation, or focus on the positives. Things are almost never black or white.  We can give ourselves permission and time to relax and think things through before we make decisions.

Our mindset is really up to us.  We can control our attitude.  That we have a choice about.    

True wisdom is knowing what to take seriously, and what to ignore, or let go of. This is not always easy to do.  Still, please contemplate this idea.  It is deep, deep wisdom.

Remember the maybe story Dad and I have told you, especially when things don't go your way. Maybe it's for the best.  Maybe something we think is horrible is actually a blessing.  We rarely know at the time, what is truly best for us.  Time will tell, and sometimes we are surprised to see that something we thought was so bad at the time, proves to be better for us in the long run.

The deepest lesson in living with uncertainty, is practicing how to let go.  That is what the spiritual masters mean when they talk about surrender.  Because we really don't know so much.

And remember, you are all in good hands, and very loved and blessed.