Our family life in the tropics. Lots of music, art, gardening, cooking, traveling, ponderings, and joy. Creating memories, traditions
and hopefully some humor. Trying to give back as well.

December 19, 2015

we're back home


After over five months away we're back home for two weeks.

Our house is so pretty.  You forget these things sometimes, or take them for granted I suppose.   But when you return home after this long, you see things with fresh eyes.

I love how much green and turquoise there is in my house, a color I have liked for years.  These colors are in the painted wood furniture, the pillows on the brown couch, the metal bed frame Gary and I picked out right after we were married, a ceramic lamp that hangs over our kitchen table.  I love our original paintings - mostly brightly colored abstract pieces that adorn many rooms.

It's funny that we get attached to things, but I've missed my things, -- our silverware, the sheets, the French style chairs I picked up at a thrift shop, our bamboo and travertine bathroom.

I think the house is happy we are back.

Our tangerine tree is giving fruit, sweet like candy.
My tulsi plants are enormous.  I still haven't checked the banana trees, today I am mostly unpacking, running on little sleep.

I sat to meditate tonight in my little corner, encouraged by the mere fact that in this house I have done most of my meditations, it is where I began the regular practice, and so it feels natural to re-enter my practice after a long dry spell.

Then I realized something:
Traveling is how you grow.
But home is where you remember who you are.

December 13, 2015

so...

this is an apple I got from Amma

Exactly two days after I wrote the post titled "I like where I am now" our landlady gave us notice to vacate the premises.  Mind you it was more than thirty day's notice, which was awfully nice of her. And she is actually a sweet lady from Taiwan who has given us pomegranates from her tree and fresh eggs from her chickens...But since we are leaving town for two weeks, and the holidays are coming and all (I haven't even been able to think about gifts), and I still hadn't even unpacked completely in the new house I am now living in (had been in for eighteen whole days when she gave us notice)...well it was a bit much, despite the brimming baskets of pomegranates I'm gazing at at the moment.

Of course to add more fun to the last several days, Gary left town the very next day after we got notice, so I am now looking for housing, on my own, with Sky as my co-pilot as Annabel and Shawn attend school. I have four days to figure this out before we fly back home for the holidays.  We return to California January 1, and then we still have a few weeks to look if we haven't found a new home.

Thank God for GoogleMaps, since I am still getting to know my way around these here parts.  After all it has only been months we've been here.

Someone asked me if I was stressed about having to move again.  Of course it's a pain, but what good does it do to get overly stressed?  You just have to do what you need to do, and deal.

I think I found us a place.  It's in a more urban setting, around the corner from a gas station, a Marshalls, and an otherwise typical American strip mall, something we Americans are most proud of with all its charm.  But the townhouse itself is nice and clean and has space for all of us, and our instruments. This currently includes drums, three guitars, a bass, and a keyboard.  Because, after all, these folks I live with aren't quite right if they don't have their instruments.

I'm just bummed because, as you remember, "I like where I am now," and the main reason is that I am in the countryside, where I can see trees everywhere I look and take a walk and breathe fresh air. I don't care it it's cold outside.  I don't care if it rains.  Eventually the sun shines because this is California people.  And the sun always shines in California...eventually.  And when the sun comes out after a rain there is this glow to everything here.  The plants are vibrating with joy as if to say, "Look at me, I'm alive!!!"

Oh well.  Living here has been good so far.

Annabel has a free math tutor who is some techie genius, she sees him often for marathon sessions on weekends, because in case you didn't know dear reader, math is fun!!  She is also starting a band called Axiom, it's Annabel and three guys because she is just plain cool.  And the guys are good players.   They recently played at a school talent show, they were the final act, and they were great. Annabel is taking physics, math, theater, history, Spanish, PE, and creative writing.  She is getting good help with college prep.  She has made a ton of friends and always has something new to do on weekends, including ice skating last weekend.  Mostly she likes galavanting around University Avenue with her friends, getting sweet tea with tapioca, and playing her music.  Her alternative rocker chick friend from across the bay comes to visit occasionally, and they connect.  I like to see the outfits this girl chooses.

Shawn is also happy here.  He is in a great school, and after a stint with a girlfriend, and a break up with said girlfriend, he has become part of a group of boys that have banded together, and Shawn seems to have been instrumental in this organic formation.  He's quite popular.  Last Friday I picked him up at one of the boy's houses and I walked into a scene of a group of boys in the middle of a nerf gun battle, pizza boxes everywhere.  It was so up his alley.  Good for him to be with boys.  He's twelve after all.  I had to drag him away but only after I talked to the dad, who is a Stanford child psychiatrist, for an hour. We talked shop for awhile and I remembered I had a brain, and all the things I used to know and do when I worked in mental health came back to me.  I realized I really miss working.  I met one of the boy's moms whose husband works in music, and we all talked about music, as the psychiatrist has a recording studio that he works in for a hobby.  Because everyone in Silicon Valley does things, and does many things, and does them well.  We all laughed about how we were talking about music when most folks in these parts are scientists and engineers.  We decided we needed to have a potluck multi-family hangout night, and rock out.

Sky is doing well, and figuring out her next step in life and how this move fits into her plan.  She is interested in nursing, music, theater, art, sewing, dance, anatomy. She is taking this time as a gap year after graduating high school.  She got really sick last year so she needed this time to rejuvenate. She is doing fine now.  She is a strong girl and having her around has been fun for me.

Gary is busy with work and his music.  There is a company in Chicago interested in re-releasing his music, the old stuff and the current stuff.  Pretty cool.  He likes to watch sports on the weekend and I like having the television on in the background.  It reminds me of my childhood.  He is my mostly companion.

I am making friends here.  It is so nice.  I have two new friends, one from India and one who is French Canadian.  People are warm and welcoming here and want to connect.  I like that.

I have an idea for work brewing...and I want to teach meditation to the stressed out middle schoolers and high schoolers at Annabel and Shawn's school.  Both of my kids think it would be cool for me to offer that.  I have no idea how I have escaped them being embarrassed of me, and my interest in all things alternative, but I have, at least with this.

One of the doctors we saw a while ago told me meditation is considered hip among teens in Silicon Valley.

So we shall see.

Onward my friends, onward.

December 6, 2015

i like where i am now

We've been living in California for exactly five months now.

We have been in our new mini house for a little over two weeks and we all like it.  It's cozy and pretty and it's starting to feel like home.  The kids are adjusting to living in one room together.  I have found ways to store their clothes and have bought some new kitchen things and a mini vacuum. It's easy to keep the house clean.  I'm hoping to plant a few flowers outside and a small veggie garden. We shall see.

We have this house rented on a month-to-month basis.  Our landlady told us today she wants a longer term commitment, so she might find another renter, so we have to keep looking.  We are hoping to get a trade, but we will have to see.  I am trying to find something.

She is a really sweet lady and she likes us.  Today Sky played her a song and afterwards, she wiped a tear away, and hugged and kissed Sky.

I like it here.

I am getting to know my way around.  I have made a couple of friends.  The kids are having fun. This weekend Annabel went ice skating with friends and Shawn was invited for a sleepover.

This place is interesting with its self driving cars, cute cafes, windy roads and modern mansions next to horse barns.  Everyone you meet is a scientist, inventor, doctor, or tech person.  Annabel is thrilled to have made friends from all over the world - Russia, Spain, France, China, India, Africa.  She is constantly telling us that she is the only one in her group of friends that speaks just one language, which makes her want to learn Spanish.  

One of my new friends was found because she came to help me as a house cleaner. But she is a massage therapist from Canada studying to take the exam to get her license in California.  When I asked if I could hire her for massage she offered to massage me for free, so she could get her confidence as she enters into this new stage of her professional life.  She is a really sweet person.  I could see her becoming a good friend.

I've always believed, but now I know...there is a God.    

November 20, 2015

tomorrow

We move the family into a very pretty, very small house.  We are planning on staying in the area until June, and hope to find something with more space in February.  After June we are going to travel in the summertime, and then we will see where we live.

We were hoping to rent something with more space and separate bedrooms right away for all of the kids, but this is the best we could find.

We'll see how it goes.  Two of our three kids will be sharing a room for the first time in years.

I shall be doing my daily meditation to stay sane.

Lots to do...packing...finding kitchen stuff...etc...

How's everyone doing?

November 1, 2015

thoughts on home

We've been living in someone else's home since mid July, as we are doing an exchange with them.  It has been wonderful and given us an opportunity to explore a new, really nice area of the country that we have considered moving to.  We have two cars to drive, an old Volvo and a new Lexus.  We have an acre of land to explore, a pool to swim in during heat waves (it's unheated), and lovely trees and flowers to look at.  We have a four bedroom, very pretty, spacious house in a beautiful neighborhood, and we are lucky to have found it.  It has taken good care of us for four months while there has been a lot going on.

We spent the last twelve summers doing home exchanges, so we are used to this, to making ourselves at home in someone else's house.  It's fun, setting up the rooms, getting used to the kitchen, seeing what unfolds in the spaces, as our family settles in.

For the last month we have been actively looking for a place to move into at the end of November, as our house trade ends then and we want to stay here for the rest of the school year.  

We have looked at all sorts of houses -- old homes, new homes, tiny homes, huge homes.  There are only a few to see, as we need furnished homes.

Today we saw a house that reminded a little of the house I lived in when Gary and I were first married.  It had a lot of unfinished wood, lots of light with interesting windows, pretty gardens and views from every room, and many cozy areas.

As I drove away I was thinking about how heavily I am influenced by my environment.  I guess we all feel more relaxed in a serene place.  I thought about how attached I get to homes, to interior spaces, to parks and forests, to beaches and even hotel rooms.  How every place I've been has a spirit, a life, a feeling it gives you, if you are quiet enough to sense it.  How lucky I have been to visit so many amazingly beautiful places.

How nerve racking it is to be on the verge of having nowhere to live.  I have never been in this situation with my family.  In one month we have nowhere to go.  Yet somehow I trust we will find something.

Today I thought about how a home interacts with a person and influences them, and they in turn influence it.  A home becomes a part of you.    

October 10, 2015

gratitude

Thank you to so many people who helped us in the last few months during our transition to a new place.
Thank you Annie for the first house.  Thank you Charlie and Marsha for the current house.  Thank you JP for coming.
You came and I didn't even have to ask.

Thank you Dr. Sitaraman for talking to us, thank you Mike the guitar guy for being in the right place at the right time, thank you Kelley for your flexibility, and Elaine for your crazy laugher. Thank you Mountain Camp Woodside and Panthers Camp for taking good care of Shawn.  Thank you Kai for tutoring Annabel in math for free. Thank you Veronica for your smiling, loving eyes when it was all we could count on. Thank you Ann for being spiritual and wise and patient and Sani for being gentle. Thank you Yvette for your huge heart. Thank you Dr. K and Dr. A and Dr I and Dr. Z and Dr. M and Athena and Ray and Mia.

Thank you Stanford for being there.  From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Thank you University Avenue for the stimulation and the robot people who entertained us for an afternoon and made my husband smile.
Thank you Country Sun and the art supply store for the surprise day when we needed it most.

Thank you SCU for being flexible.

Thank you new neighbors for making us feel so welcome right away and bringing food and friendliness and a feeling of optimism.  Thank you Gunn and Terman staff for the little things you did to help Annabel and Shawn transition into such big schools.

Thank you for your support -- Mom, Dad, Jill, Tim, Eileen, Janel, Dawn, Terri, Jeri, Cathy, Shuba, Juliette, Annie, Rochelle, Elizabeth, Bess, Radha, Josie, Malik, Monika, Ron, Devidas, Dayamrita, Vishwan.  You are in my heart.

Thank you Ron and Amma for the ashram, now a drive away, and the day we had there that lightened our load.

Thank you God for the beautiful daytime sky and for the sunsets that warmed my heart.
Thank you for cool breezes on hot days and warm sun on cold mornings and mountains in the distance with expansive views when I got to take a walk.  Thank you God, for always taking care of us, and for constantly reminding us that we are not alone.

Thank you Shawn.
Thank you Annabel.
Thank you Gary.

Thank you Sky.

All of you I have mentioned, in your own way...
You are all rock stars.

September 21, 2015

friendship and the women in my life

my grandma at age 98

My grandmother was one of the kindest, happiest and loving people I knew.
She was a friend to all.  She was the type of person who took in a neighbor's child on weekdays to get him off to school because the child's mother had to leave for work early in the morning.  She gave to everyone, all the time, with no strings attached.

My mother learned from her and showed my sister and I, through example how to be a good friend. She talked to us about friendship.  It was from this springboard that I set my standards for friendship. Lately I have been reflecting on the value of this.

What would I do without my best friends?

I have women in my life that I can turn to when things are really rough.
I can call them and cry and get comforted.
I can see them after a year and pick up where we left off.
I can tell them anything with no judgement.
They try to help me in any way they can.

These women are my tribe.
Most of them don't know one another.
They are scattered all over the globe.

Some are relatives including my mother and sister.

Thank you ladies.  You keep me going.

You know who you are.
janeldawnieterrimomjillnankathyjuliettejerishubaannieradhabesspamkatecathysara

And thank you Grandma and Mom, for the example.  I set the bar high, and yet I still have found some gems in my life.

August 22, 2015

what i see now that we are somewhere new

Ah California.  Cafes and baseball fields, colleges with architecture both old and new, people dressed strangely, my family talking to robots and laughing and making messes daily in my new kitchen, walks with beautiful expansive views, charm and uniqueness and pastries that almost rival those found on the streets of Paris.

That's what I see.

There's all sorts of new things to behold and experience here.

August 19, 2015

19, happy birthday my sky

 Little Sky 
Sky now


Wow.  Where did the time go my dear girl???
You are such an amazing young woman.  I am honored and proud and so so love being your mama.
Thank you for coming to me.  You grace my life in so many ways.

You are doing great.  You are such a strong, brilliant, beautiful, intelligent, unique, kind person.  You light up a room when you enter it and you bring so much joy to people.  You have many gifts, and are continuing to discover just what they are.  You don't give up and know how to overcome obstacles.  I wish you love, peace, joy and abundance.  I bless you on this day and every day and I ask God to bless you too.  

Love you Skypie.
Thank you Sky.  Thank you.
xxoo

July 27, 2015

fourth of july day trip

It was a while ago, this Independence Day trip we took back home.  We went on a hike and then the kids swam in a rapid moving fresh water stream.  The water was so cold, but refreshing.